Thursday, July 9, 2009

My homosexual friend....

Ankita(name changed to keep her privacy intact)was always my envy.her versatility in every field made her out beat all. Be it debates,studies or sports she won in every work with minimal drudgery.Little below average in looks she always dressed up in cool clothes and was always at ease with her self..In our 8th standard she got an opportunity to play national level net ball and slowly she became an international player.All our juniors use to adore her and wanted to be like her.

In 11th standard our gang was formed and comprises of five girls.No special preference was being imparted to her by our group as we knew she was already flying.Ankita after winning her International fame started having frequent tours and as these tours were sponsored by the school our sports teacher also accompanied her.I took physical education in 11th as my 5th subject and during those periods when ever we use to talk about Ankita our sports teacher had a weird uncontentious look.That surprised me as Ankita was one who got fame to sports teacher as well as to the school.Instead of being proud of her accomplishment she never favored her.

Ankita always use to talk about her tournaments and trips but there was something else who she always mentioned and that was another school teacher Megha(Name changed).Ankita became my good friend and she started sharing more things with me.

One day she call d and asked me to tell her mom that she is with me.When I asked her where she is going she answered Megha home.This trips became frequent and then things started unwrapping.One day Megha came to our school and Ankita joy had no bounds.With in seconds she collected all of us and from third floor we almost jumped to the ground floor to meet Megha.Lady had all tom boyish look with short hair and was wearing jeans and man like shirt.I wondered what made her so lovable in Ankita eyes.After she left Ankita was going GA Ga about her and was coercing us to say good things about her so I praised her saying that she reminds me of Falguni Pathak (one of best Indian singer who dresses like man).Ankita was on seventh heaven after listening to my comment Things started getting apparent and we had an idea about Ankita mischief.Ankita became an object of laughter for us.She used to tell us how they both play "pakdam pakdai"alone at home .Many other incidents and episodes made us sure and we started caring the sly smile when ever she mentioned about her.Ankita got little idea so in between she started giving clarification about the purity of their relationship.

Ankita mom made sure she never meet Megha and we never realized what she is going through.One day she broke down while talking to me on phone as Megha ill treated her due to some reason.I didn't know how to console her but i tried my level best to upkeep her mood.

Year passed by we cleared our 12th standard and Ankita went into one of the best college due to her sport quota and good performance in studies as well.I last chatted with her when I was about to get married.She told me that she too is getting married next month .Being for a political family I knew her parents must have got a ideal millionaire for her.Ankita never was lady like.Imagining her serving as a daughter in law and taking house hold responsibility is still beyond belief.

Recently when sec 377 was abolished in India which means now two females and male can get married or can have consensual sex brought back me the old memories.

Our ignorance about the issue and pressure from the family and society made her follow which she never desired.I knew just a bit of what she went through as I am sure she couldn't open her heart to any one.I wonder whether she is able to do justice with her and her partner life.Whether still in her heart she feels for Megha or any other women.

Homosexuality is not a modern world discovery.It has been there when our emperors use to go to for years of fight and their wives fulfilled their physical desires with each other as meeting man was unfeasible for them.Its just that today youth know how to fight for there rights.Therefore they want it to be legalized without feeling humiliated or mortified.

What I consider is that one who is born on this earth has the right to love and marry who so ever he or she wants to.one's sexual preference is no body's business.Even if India is open to homosexuality still these people have long way ahead.No family will be interested in giving their house for rent to gays.No one will prefer gays in their neighborhood and especially lesbians will not only face the torture of their parents more but will have security issues more in comparison to gays.Still these people have long miles to go before they sleep and for girls like Ankita life will move for her as the society wanted her to move.

22 comments:

  1. humm, that is a bold writeup. I appreciate your knowhow. We do come across many cases in life, and indeed one has a right to go for ones sexual preferences.
    Is the title "My homoexual friend...." a typo error or you wanted to spell homosexuality that way?:))

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  2. oops!! that certainly is a typo error..

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  3. hope you dont mind me correcting, its just that one doesnt notice it when one type. Only someone reading it realizes such mistakes. Unless corrected one goes making the same mistakes again and again.

    Now, let me also know my mistakes so that i can correct them :))

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  4. Plz do let me know so that i can improve..I certainly don mind that.

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  5. That brought back memories from my school days. There was a girl in our batch in school whom we found odd because of the way she dressed and behaved, alos we felt a bit uncomfortable in her presence as she chkecked us out like boys..we were young and unaware of a thing called homosexuality, as we grew older, we just kept our distance from her. But much later I have often wondered about her and what came of her..

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  6. I guess most of come across some one or the other who is homo sexual in our life.

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  7. More recently, after Sec 377 was abolished, i've read quite a few posts on homosexuality in the blogosphere, but still haven't come across something as bold n as honest as dis one. dis writeup compels the reader to think (even if they are against homosexuality) about it deeply. Good one. :)

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  8. This was a nice post and puts the whole gay issue in perspective. I wonder how did your friend do in her married life? One hears of men and women who are quickly pushed into a marriage if the family finds out that they are gay. Our culture is not at all accepting and it will take many years before it is socially accepted to be gay openly.

    Your post makes me think:)

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  9. Thanks :)

    I hope she has changed her sexual preference.

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  10. i really like ur take on the subject and the way u weaved the story of Ankita and Megha to talk about this very important and serious topic...verry nice...

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  11. This was a serious topic and you really handled it sensitively. We all have our opinion on this issue. The most important is that all people deserve our respect. We should not resent anyone for his/her sexual orientation.

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  12. Yaa Aparna i completely adhere to your views.

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  13. BTW, I loved the quote from the Upanishad. Feeling angry for noticing it earlier.
    This is a true gem Anamika, do you have the sanskrit version of it written somewhere?

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  14. well Aparna even i tried searching for it but not succeeded.Guess it was not in my deep down desires;D

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  15. Nice blog. What they do in private is their own business. But some people, here in USA, go out of the way to show their preference. Recently I saw a girl wearing a T-shirt that had the following words: Kiss Me, I am a Lesbian.

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  16. Thats quite a daring and a strong post... Agreed, its their personal business and most people have their own trouble, so y peek into others interests! anyways...just to ask...mind changing the title, think it might be wrong with the "My" , apologies...first time here..c yu often :)

    Hary

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  17. woa, i liked the Upanishad quote...profoundly meaningful.

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  18. I agree to a certain extend of your post.
    But at the time of emperors the emperor was not available for the empress .
    Can you ever point out a homosexual couple living happily and celebrating 50 years. Is it the law of nature to be homosexual and even in animal kingdom , I have never heard of homosexuality.

    don't feel ire :-)

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  19. thanks for writing a good post on a sensitive issue, you handled it well here :)

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  20. really nice post. i liked the way you put across your point of you. enjoyed reading it. and like a lot of people have said, the quote is brilliant. : )

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  21. i really like ur take on the subject and the way u weaved the story of Ankita and Megha to talk about this very important and serious topic...marvellous and mind blowing
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